2014 Newsletter

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December 2014

  1. Divorce Study: Study: Divorce After 50 Rising Despite Looming Retiremen
    “Gray Divorce” is on the rise – in spite of the extra challenges posed by a lengthy marriage and looming retirement.
  2. Child Custody: How Often do Non-Custodial Parents see their Children? 
    Here are the most common reasons why non-custodial parents have little or no contact with their children, and the problems caused by an absent parent.
  3. Health and Well-Being: Staying Calm while Negotiating with Your Ex 
    Ten tips for staying cool and calm during heated divorce-related negotiations or conversations with your ex.
  4. Financial: Post-Divorce Financial Checklist 
    These 20 financial “must dos” will put you on the right track financially; complete this list to take control and make the most of your finances post-divorce.
  5. Children and Divorce: Advice from Stepkids 
    Stepparents play a significant role in cultivating a well-adjusted stepfamily. 50 stepchildren of different ages were asked to give advice to stepparents; here’s a summary of what they said.

November 2014

  1. Study: An Expensive Engagement Ring Increases Odds of Divorce 
    The true cost of an expensive engagement ring may be your marital happiness, as researchers find high wedding costs and risk of divorce to be linked.
  2. Managing your Reputation During Divorce
    Acting in a way that appears irresponsible, inappropriate, or antagonistic can have a negative impact on your case, leaving you with both less money and less time with your kids.
  3. Considering a Forensic CPA?
    Price can be a consideration, but it should not be the primary factor in your decision on which financial expert to hire.
  4. Are You Stuck in the Shame of Divorce?
    Learn how to accept and forgive so that you can take the first steps in moving on and creating a life you love.
  5. Advice for Grey Divorces
    If you’re more than 60 years old and divorcing, collaboration or mediation can be your best hope of preserving your family’s finances.

October 2014

  1. Support: Making your Case for Spousal Support 
    Many states and provinces consider your marital standard of living and your pre-divorce lifestyle as major factors in awarding spousal support.
  2. Children and Divorce: How do I Tell the Kids about Divorce? 
    Using a storybook format to break the news to your children in a loving way.
  3. Health and Well-Being: Moving from Panic to Peace during Divorce 
    The seven stages of divorce are panic, denial, agony, rage, epiphany, negotiation, and peace.
  4. Financial: Protecting Yourself from Post-Divorce Bankruptcy 
    In all too many divorces, the threat of bankruptcy is real. Here’s how to protect yourself.
  5. Humor: Divorce Quotes 
    Funny, irreverent, witty, and wise quotes about divorce, marriage, and relationships. Some food for thought, and some wry observations from celebrities and authors.

September 2014

  1. Divorce Settlement and Preparation: Getting Settled 
    What you need to know before creating your Settlement Agreement.
  2. Financial Planning: Working with a Financial Professional 
    A competent financial advisor can be an invaluable resource during your divorce.
  3. Considering Divorce: Ending Abuse 
    Physical or emotional abuse can happen to anyone. Here’s information on how to help someone in an abusive relationship.
  4. Children and Divorce: Shared Parenting Pros and Cons 
    Which is better for children: shared parenting or sole custody?
  5. Divorce Recovery: Whose Life is it Anyway? 
    Your new life begins with taking a leadership role. Here’s how.

August 2014

  1. Divorce News: Study: Rising U.S. Divorce Rate 
    American marriages and cohabiting unions are less stable than ever.
  2. Children and Divorce: Successful Stepfamilies 
    How to create a happy, functional stepfamily.
  3. Financial Planning: Dividing Marital Property 
    Here’s how to deal with complex financial or property issues in a divorce.
  4. Divorce Recovery: The Power of Forgiveness 
    If you’re feeling stuck in your divorce recovery, you may need to forgive your ex – and yourself.
  5. Relationships: Should you Stay or Go? 
    How to know whether ending your relationship is the right thing to do, or whether you can make a troubled relationship work again.

July 2014

  1. Children and Divorce: Protect Children from Conflict During Divorce 
    Tips to protect children from conflict, and to reduce the harmful effects of long-term conflict during and after divorce.
  2. Divorce News: Moral Acceptability of Divorce Reaches Record Highs 
    69% of Americans now find divorce morally acceptable.
  3. Contemplating Divorce: Knowing if You Should Stay or Go 
    Gauge whether or not you should remain married to your spouse.
  4. Divorce Recovery: Divorce Decorating Checklist: A Primer 
    Decorating can be your immediate first step to reinvention; you can do it right away!
  5. Middle Ground for Couples Renewing Your Relationships: Seven Guidelines for Middle-Ground: Part 3/3 
    If you need help regulating and resolving conflict safely, these guidelines are for you.

June 2014

  1. Legal: Coming to Terms: Glossary of Divorce 
    A glossary of common divorce terms used in divorce litigation and court.
  2. Middle Ground for Couples Renewing Your Relationships: Seven Guidelines for Middle-Ground: Part 2/3 
    If you need help regulating and resolving conflict safely, these guidelines are for you.
  3. Children and Divorce: What to Do When Your Kids Don’t Like Your New Partner 
    How your fiancée/fiancé will fit into your family – this is the biggest test in remarrying.
  4. Marriage, Relationships, and Divorce: 10 Common Relationship-Sabotaging Behaviours: Part 3/3 
    When the damage is done, the relationship may be beyond repair.
  5. Divorce Finance: Child Support Overview 
    A general overview of child support guidelines.
  6. 6. Divorce Recovery: Forgive and Forget 
    Forgiving is the key to forgetting painful memories and moving on.

May 2014

  1. Divorce Study: Watching Movies Together Could Prevent Divorce 
    Use communication technology in healthy and effective ways to make co-parenting life easier for you and your children.
  2. Middle Ground for Couples Renewing Your Relationships: Seven Guidelines for Middle-Ground: Part 1/3 
    If you need help regulating and resolving conflict safely, these guidelines are for you. Part 1/3
  3. Marriage, Relationships, and Divorce: 10 Common Relationship-Sabotaging Behaviours: Part 2/3 
    When the damage is done, the relationship may be beyond repair. Part 2
  4. Your Life After Divorce: Your Life After Divorce 
    Transcend your divorce to live a happier, more fulfilled life.
  5. Military Divorce: Why Military Families End Up In Divorce 
    Military deployments cause significant problems to couples and often make them total strangers.

April 2014

  1. Divorce Study: Children of Divorce More Likely to Drop their Parent’s Religion: Study 
    Children of actively religious, divorced parents are twice as likely to choose a different path
  2. Ending a Destructive Relationship: Addicted to the Relationship? 
    When you’re unhappy in your significant relationship all other parts of your life are affected.
  3. Marriage, Relationships, and Divorce: 10 Common Relationship-Sabotaging Behaviors: Part 1/3 
    When the damage is done, the relationship may be beyond repair.
  4. Your Life After Divorce: Yes, divorce, even if you chose it, is a loss 
    Just as feelings can carry us forward, they can slow us down or stop us in our tracks.
  5. Divorce Financial Planning: Financial fairness in divorce: What you need to know 
    Avoid the pitfalls by doing your homework.

March 2014

  1.  Legal: How to Work with Your Divorce Lawyer 
    Tips for keeping your legal fees down and getting the best possible outcome.
  2. Divorce Financial Planning: Tax Tips and Traps 
    Here are two topics you’d probably rather not think about: Divorce and Taxes. If you’re separated or newly divorced, however, it could be worth your while to get some good financial advice about both.
  3. Divorce Therapy: The Invaluable and Crucial Roles of Mental-Health Professionals in the Divorce Process 
    The collaboration between therapists and lawyers in the collaborative movement.
  4.  Marriage, Relationships, and Divorce: Are You Sabotaging Your Own Relationships? 
    Sabotaging behaviors slowly build toxicity in a partnership that might have otherwise succeeded.
  5.  Middle Ground for Couples Renewing Your Relationships: Dealing with Conflict 
    Curiosity and a willingness to work on challenges opens up the middle ground.

February 2014

  1. High Conflict Divorce: When Mental Illness Is Real 
    Parents with significant mental health problems are still important to their children.
  2. Separation/Divorce Process: What to Expect in the First Stages of Divorce 
    What to expect in the first stages of divorce: Do not assume that you know your spouse
  3. Divorce Financial Planning: Steering Clear of Financial Landmines 
    Understanding the financial and tax implications of your options – and avoiding financial landmines – is critical in creating a settlement that will last long-term.
  4. Marriage, Relationships, and Divorce: Music Legend Dan Hill Talks Relationships 
    An Interview with Dan Hill by Divorce Magazine
  5. Ending a Destructive Relationship: Breaking It Off 
    How to end and break away from a destructive relationship.

January 2014

  1. Divorce Team: Selecting your Professional Divorce Team 
    How to get the best possible advisors during your divorce.
  2. Divorce Financial Planning: Steering Clear of Financial Landmines 
    Understanding the financial and tax implications of your options – and avoiding financial landmines – is critical in creating a settlement that will last long-term.
  3. Collaborative Law: Setting and Prioritizing Goals and Interests 
    Define and prioritize your goals and interests and take major steps toward achieving a successful divorce.
  4. Parenting and Divorce: The Parent Left Behind 
    Steps to relieve stress and loneliness when your kids go away with your Ex.
  5. Your Life After Divorce: Take Care of Yourself 
    When you embark on your divorce, it’s important to listen to yourself first.

Archive: 2013