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Finding common ground in divorce situations

It is extremely common for divorcing couples to find themselves embroiled in bitter battles over perceived injustices in the divorce settlement. The fact that these couples usually already hold some deep-seated contempt for each other only adds to the conflict that naturally occurs in such circumstances. Many times people find it difficult to approach a situation objectively and consider the best solution because they naturally are very emotionally invested in the marriage relationship and its demise. This often results in an inability to see past personal resentments and negotiate reasonably with the other party. In such cases, it may be prudent to seek advice from knowledgeable counsel who has no personal connection to either party.

Being willing to negotiate even when you are convinced that your position is the only right one can reap surprising benefits once the dust has settled. It may be necessary to maintain a civil or even cooperative relationship with your former spouse, especially if there are children involved. Removing the conflict can also significantly reduce the amount of stress you likely are already experiencing under these difficult circumstances. After the initial anger and hurt has subsided, being right usually becomes far less important in the eyes of both parties.

Experienced family law attorneys can advise and assist couples contemplating divorce regarding the equitable division of marital property, spousal and child support issues and child custody. The legal issues surrounding a divorce may vary greatly depending upon the types of marital property at issue, whether there are children involved, the parties’ employment circumstances and many other factors. Removing emotions from the settlement negotiations may be very difficult in family and divorce law issues, but doing so allows all parties to think more logically and consider reasonable compromises.

Source: Huffington Post, “Do You Want To Be Right Or Do You Want To Be Happy?“, Debbi Dickinson, June 18, 2013