Why putting off divorce is not always a good idea

On behalf of Janet Boyle of BOYLE FEINBERG, P.C. posted in Child Custody on Thursday, April 7, 2016.

When Illinois residents contemplate ending their marriages, it is not uncommon for them to take significant amounts of time before they actually file their petitions. In some cases, people who spend time thinking about divorcing are able to instead work things out with their spouses and remain married.

In other cases, people may determine that they do wish to end their marriages and start by separating from their spouses. If they have children, prolonging actually filing their paperwork may make things more difficult for their children to handle and understand. A parent who truly wishes to divorce, however, may want to go ahead and file the petition so that the children can adjust to their new family status.

Children whose parents spend long periods separated without filing for divorce may hold out hope that their mom and dad will reconcile. The children may have difficulty enjoying everyday activities because of their confusion and worry. Filing for divorce sooner may help everyone in the family by allowing them to move forward with living post-divorce.

Whenever divorcing parents have children, child custody will need to be determined. A parent who wants to divorce may want to seek out the advice of a family law attorney. In every child custody matter, courts will hold the best interests of the children as the preeminent consideration. The attorney can often help with negotiating a parenting plan that will help the children be better adjusted and which will be accepted by the court having jurisdiction over the proceedings. In most cases, children benefit by having liberal access to both parents.