Mediation can lessen trauma associated with a divorce

On behalf of Janet Boyle of Boyle & Feinberg, P.C. posted in Divorce Mediation on Wednesday, October 14, 2015.

Estranged Illinois couples who are ending their marriage may want to consider mediation as a way to settle their divorce issues. The process is growing in popularity as a way to lessen the stress during this very emotional time.

An important part of the mediation process is getting spouses to communicate with each other. As tension between the spouses escalates, they may stop talking to each other about important issues. The mediation process gets couples to talking as they work through their issues, which can range from child custody and support to alimony and property division. In mediation, couples make the decisions as to what works best for them. If a contested divorce goes to court, a judge makes these decisions thatmay not work for either or both of the spouses or any children. The mediator acts as a facilitator, helping couples come up with their own creative solutions to their issues. The mediator helps the spouses to talk out their concerns and differences to arrive at a settlement that works for each of them.

Mediation also is cheaper than contested divorces that end up in court. Litigated divorces can cost thousands of dollars initially, and even more if spouses choose to revisit some of the court orders at a later date. A mediated settlement is more likely to stick since both spouses agreed to its terms.

The end of a marriage can be a very traumatic experience for both parties, especially if they have young children. A divorcing spouse may want to consult a family law attorney to see if mediation is an appropriate method to choose.